I’ve heard different pieces of advice since I’ve been single in regards to obtaining a boyfriend. Family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, and even the homeless man by my work (I’m serious); they all have an opinion on how I should go about finding a man. I’d like to share this advice with you to illustrate the dilemma I’m currently in.
“Julia, you should just stop looking! It always happens when you’re not looking!” Of course this advice has some validity to it. I mean, I know I can’t go running around holding a neon sign with the words, I’M SINGLE AND READY TO MINGLE, PLEASE MARRY ME on it. As much as I would like to, (and really, I would never do that, don’t worry Mom) I’m aware that a man hunt obsession isn’t effective or a solution.
“Julia, you should try, Match.com, EHarmony, Christian Mingle, Catholic Singles, Catholic Match, Plenty of Fish, Christian Match, Perfect Match, Chemistry.com, The Bachelorette (yes the show), (and my personal favorite) Millionaire Matchmaker. My sisters, brothers, friend’s, cousin, 10 times removed, found their boyfriend, husband, girlfriend, wife, soul-mate there! It has to work for you!” Did your head explode too? Ok, I do know a lot of wonderful couples who’ve met this way and I couldn’t be happier for them! Honestly, I think dating online or through a service has advantages that older generations didn’t!
"Julia, you should just do something you love and then you'll meet men who share the same interest as you." Maybe that's true for some activities, but I'm not sure the 55 year old that swims in my lane at practice is available. Besides, I'm open-minded, but not that open-minded.
But, back to my problem, does anyone see the dilemma I’m faced with? If I look too much, then I won’t find anyone. If I’m not-looking, and by the way, I’m confused as to how that’s accomplished, I’m missing out on a potential boyfriend! Craziness! What’s the happy medium or where’s the line between obsession and apathy? What does that line look like and will my high heel wedges be able to balance on it without falling?
With all the confusion of what I should or shouldn’t do, I answered my own question. I signed up for Match.com again. Yeah, that’s right, again. With that said, I guess that means my neon sign is electronically up. If anything at least I'll get more material to write about. Wish me luck!
